How do you find out what really matters to you?

By attending your own funeral. Funerals are the perfect time to gain insight into important matters in life. In most cases it is then too late for the data subject to make improvements or changes, but not for you at this time. As you walk around your funeral in your mind, look around carefully for who is sitting and who is missing. What is said when your life story is told. Is that the story you wanted to write? How will people remember you and what can you do to change that? Who is missing from the service? And how can you still make up for it? Thinking about death is also thinking about life. If you take the time to think about what should happen in that tragic moment, you may come across things that you already want to change or fix in your life. Relationships with people you want to amend. Goals you still want to achieve. Rubble you want to ditch. It is a profound and a very meaningful exercise. Try it. Write down what you want that happens on that day, but also what you want that happens in the life that preceded it.