How to overcome personal adversity?

You wonder? Why does it happen to you? That is allowed. But it will not help you. Why not? Because the question yields nothing. On the contrary. It pulls you down. It kills you. It doesn't work. It's what psychologists call a destructive question . The remarkable thing is that, just as a destructive question can destroy, a constructive question can help, build and heal. Not: how is it possible? Well: how can I make it possible? Not: why me again? Well: what lessons can I learn and what can I do to change it? Not: what have I done to earn this? Well: what can I do to fix it? Not: why is this happening to me? Well: how can I turn this in my favor? Not: why couldn't it be easier? Well: how can I get stronger? Not: when will there be improvement? Well: how can I bring about improvement? Not: why doesn't my partner support me? Well: how can this situation bring us closer together? Constructive questions lead to constructive thinking. How did others get through this? What can I learn from this and enjoy it at the same time? And what can of all things me benefit from this?