How can you keep your promises?
All agreements you make are actually agreements with yourself. Also those with others. Your brain stores them as commitments sealed with love, trust and credibility. Whether you make that appointment with family, friends or colleagues. Failure to keep an agreement undermines your confidence, self-esteem and integrity. And those values are things that you shouldn't just throw away for some casual appointments.
The four main engagement techniques
- Only make agreements that you plan to keep. Carefully consider the importance and necessity of the appointment. Think carefully about the investment in time and energy that you will have to make to keep the appointment.
- Write down your appointments. In the first place to not forget them, but also to limit them, to oversee them and to respect their content.
- Communicate non-compliance. If you cannot keep your commitment, please let us know as soon as possible. Renegotiate the deal. If the car does not work, there is an unexpected traffic jam, you are sick, weak or nauseous: contact us. At the latest when the appointment should have taken place, but better still: as much as possible before.
- Don't do it. Say 'no'. Don't make the appointment. Consider the commitment and what it is worth to you to make.
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