How do you make it happen?

Do it yourself. If you really want something to happen, you have to do it yourself. Nothing changes without moving, Einstein noted. Send out signals, to others, to yourself. People who succeed in what they set out to do, do so by taking first steps. They may not yet know exactly what they want and where they are going to get it, but that doesn't stop them from going out to try. Look at yourself. You have a duty to take care of yourself. To strive for the best possible, the most beautiful, the most exciting, the most delicious. This is only feasible if you: focus on yourself first. Listen, look, recognize yourself and your needs. Be honest, critical and loving. This does not mean that you should be unreasonably selfish or not taking not taking into account the needs of others, but you have the right to develop and advance yourself. That will create opportunities for yourself and also for others. Approve yourself. No doubt it is pleasant to get the approval of others, but don't wait for it. That approval might never come, not in the form you wanted of expected, or too late. Do not let your self-esteem depend on it. You are the best connoisseur of yourself, you know best what is right for you. Make someone happy. People who have an eye for the needs of others and do something to meet them, lead happier lives. Do something for someone else on a regular basis. Do something for someone you don’t know. Do something for someone and don't disclose it. Selfless giving is a wonderful technique that yields more than it costs. Make new friends. Most people are good souls with the best intentions. Strangers are friends you don't know yet. Step out there, talk to them, make contact Don't compare yourself to others. Stop checking on others to say how they are doing, or how it looks that they are doing. It's pointless because you never will really know how others really are and experience their own life. Look at yourself, be happy with what you see. You will have to make do with it. Accept yourself. It's one of the most liberating gifts you can offer yourself. Accept your life. Accept your existence and especially that it does not is perfect. Accept your body, accept your mind, accept your circumstances. What in others looks radiant on the outside, can feel rickety inside. 'Experience is a gem', wrote William Shakespeare, 'and it better be, because there is paid a very high price. ' Don't expect too much of money. Money is money and nothing else. Money can never compensate for things that are really important. Things that you never can buy with it: health, love, attention, appreciation, fulfilment, purpose, meaning. Money is practical, but never let it be an end in itself. Do what you like to do. Do it with passion. The rest will followsµ. The money as well. Not everyone can like you. In fact, not everyone will like you. Therefore, do not fish for the love and approval of everybody. They won't give it and is waisted energy. Just do what is important to you yourself. Or at least start there along. No one else will do it for you. Once you start, you will discover that people are willing to help you. And even if that is not the case you can get a long way on your own, maybe even to the end. Initiative and trust will charge your confidence like the dynamo of a bicycle. This way you can store power that you can later use for yourself or for others. Because it is always better to be able to yourself help than be dependent on others.